Friday, 31 March 2017

Dealing With Tough Times

Since 2017 began, it's been a huge downhill slope for me. I've had a couple serious family issues over the first two months, and last week I lost a family member to cancer. On top of this, there's a lot of pressure concerning A-Levels and getting a solid plan together as to what I'm going to do after college, as well as learning to drive, trying to juggle a healthy lifestyle and seeing friends. It's been a tough one, and sometimes its really, really hard to remember that things are going to get better.

I don't know about you, but generally when I receive advice it helps momentarily, but the problem is still there, meaning I don't actually feel any better about it. I've always been quite an independent person, so I do rely on myself for a lot of things, mainly to keep my own emotions in check. A big thing that has helped me with that is being self aware.

Self awareness has helped me in so many different aspects of my life. It allowed me to change my attitude from negative to positive, tackle tasks I wouldn't even dream of attempting, and sculpting myself into the person who I want to be. Even now, I'm consistently trying to better myself as a person, which is something that I find incredibly rewarding. Being self aware has also allowed me to have an understanding of my emotions, and thus how to have a better handle on them.

But, that doesn't mean that things don't get overwhelming. The past couple months have been super difficult for me, and I don't really put much hope in it getting better very soon or very quickly. It is important to remember that things do get better, and bad periods of time don't last forever, but that doesn't stop them from being hard to deal with at the time.

Productive activities such as going to the gym, revising and even blogging definitely help me feel better despite the consistent overhanging cloud of 'Life Problems', and even when you're feeling your lowest, sometimes all that you can do it get up and on with life. Its never easy, but having friends and family who love you and are willingly there for you no matter what is a reassuring relief.

Everyone has ups and downs, and you simply cannot be happy all the time. It's just important to remember that you're allowed to be sad when you need to be.

- Ashia


  1. I completely agree that sometimes advice doesn't really penetrate the surface and sometimes the only person who can help us is ourselves. We can't all be positive all of the time and I have always said I wished someone had told me sooner that "it's ok not to be ok", we are kind of brainwashed by society that everyone is ok all of the time, when in reality we are all just swans, graceful on the surface and fighting our own battles beneath the water. xx Keep pushing girl, the best is yet to be xx

    Sophia |

    1. I really agree with your point about the illusion of everyone being happy, its such an unhealthy misconception. Your swan analogy is beautiful, I'll definitely remember that. I will try! Xxx

  2. You're such a strong person Ashia, and I admire how well you manage to keep it together half the time (you know me, I'd break down constantly)! Keep going, and remember good times are ahead!

    1. Thankyou my love, and this is true, but nothing wrong with a good cry if it helps! I will try my best :)


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